Couples in a relationship, or those singles out there who just broke up are always wondering… “How do I maintain a relationship that I am in?”
There have been many times where people come to me with relationship issues after reading about it, or just feel that need someone to confide in, and my ears are always open to help! One of those times they do ask for my help is mostly about break ups.. or how to continue in a relationship?
So, what’s the magic of those couples that have been together for 10 years and counting? Possibly to marriage, and happily ever after?
It’s pretty simple.. Here are a few things I have read in all my years of reading psychology theories and textbooks, experiencing it for myself, and witnessing it as well..
Trust
– Most important of values to uphold in a relationship. If the trust doesn’t exist from the beginning, most couples will get into endless arguments that might lead to phone checking, email checking,etc. and most often times, a breakup after. If you don’t trust your partner enough, and think he/she will cheat you the instant they step out the door, why get together with them in the first place if they are the type of person to cheat on you?
Always trusting me where ever I go, be it events, tv interviews,etc. I know many guys who would never allow their girlfriends of wife to be focused on..
Communication
– Have you guys seen couples just staring at their phones while they are having dinner? I’ve seen that countless of times…If both of you are not talking face to face, but rather talking to your phones while you are together, many things can get lost in translation! For instance, DO NOT argue over what’s app because many sentences can be misconstrued… please just talk it out, lay it out on the table and discuss it
Compromise
This is especially for couples who are living together.. If something he/she does irks you, tell him or her, and if he/she does compromise, you would also have to compromise on something that irks him/her about you.. Living together will bare everything about yourself to your partner and vice versa..the question is not whether you can handle it, but if there are problems, how to compromise to make living comfortable for one another.
Travelling with me just to take my mind off work when he didn’t quite travel before this..Now, he’s hooked:)
Commitment
If you are not in it for the long run, then don’t get emotionally involved, and make it upfront to the person on the receiving end. Tp put it bluntly, every relationship starts happily(the honeymoon period), and not expecting an imminent end right?
Going out of the way
Yup, it’s as simple as going out of the way to do the smallest thing for your partner that makes your heart flutter all over again.. Ben did something really cute, he bought this air freshener and made sure the bear’s face looked directly at me as a greeting for me when I getinto the car 🙂
It’s not really rocket science on how to sustain and maintain a relationship, it just takes effort, trust, and commitment:) So, don’t screw up if you believe that person is the right one for you!
Love,
Mei Sze
